The end of a year comes and with it the eternal struggle to take stock of what we did or didn’t do, also comes the famous New Year’s resolution list where we usually want to eat well, lose weight, go to gym, saving, learning something new, etc., which starts with a lot of enthusiasm but becomes more difficult to fulfill over time.
Making New Year’s resolutions is a stimulant for our brain, as they represent a new challenge to achieve, but so that they do not become a burden to not fulfill them, we need to make the brain focus and find a way achievable to obtain them, because this helps us to motivate ourselves and to feel satisfaction as we fulfill it. In addition, we must bear in mind that even if we want to share it with other people, this is a personal matter.
?What is a purpose??
It is a goal that each person sets out to fulfill in the short, medium or long term; it can encompass various aspects of life such as personal, family, work, academic, etc., and allow us to generate integral growth.
Why do we make resolutions at the end or beginning of a year?
Starting a new year is like having a blank slate that allows us to plan goals, with a specific time and possibly ranging from spiritual issues to the rational part, which is why they are traditionally done at the end of each year. The problem lies when time passes and we have not accomplished what we set out to do, as sometimes they are not achievable, we have not made a solid plan or we are not clear about what we really want to achieve, causing frustration and discouragement.
Then, how do we build an achievable purpose?
Keep in mind that goals should be flexible, adaptable, realistic, and as far as possible with an expiration date, because as time goes by, many things can happen that alter our plans. For example, during the pandemic we all had to adapt to the reality we were living, new goals, new ways of doing things emerged and we fulfilled others, which is very valuable.
Here are some tips to keep in mind to start 2023 off on the right foot:
It is not enough to have willpower to achieve a goal, identify and plan what you want to achieve for this purpose, visualize it and structure the steps of how you will achieve it, set priorities, set deadlines, see with what resources count and what are the limitations that can be presented.
Sometimes less is more, building one or two clear goals can be much better than having several that will not be fulfilled in the long run.
Write your goals down on paper and make a list. Reading and looking at them will help you focus your efforts on achieving them.
Be aware of the pros and cons of each purpose, so you can have a broader picture to carry them out.
Turn your intentions into habits or routines, for example, if you want to go to the gym, put together a calendar with dates and times to attend.
Share your goals with family or friends, they can add value.
Learn to say “NO”, although it is good to share, what others tell us does not always add value to the goals we set for ourselves.
If over time your plan to achieve a goal does not work, do not get frustrated, remember that they are adaptable and can be modified, the important thing is not to lose sight of it.
Don’t turn your goals into a straitjacket, finding a way to make them fun helps the brain to be motivated and creative to accomplish them.
Now yes, take out paper and pencil and write the list of intentions, this new year is a cycle of 365 days to make your goals come true. At the Shaio Clinic we wish that the successes of the coming year are just the beginning of something big.
This article was advised by Angie Paola Monsalve, psychologist at the Psychology service for collaborators at the Shaio Clinic.